I wasn’t planning to spend an evening reading Reddit, but I stumbled onto a long thread about Chrishell’s divorce and I couldn’t stop scrolling.
What started as reality-TV gossip turned into something deeper about resilience, boundaries, and healing.
Here’s what I learned after reading dozens of comments and re-watching some clips.
A Quick Look Back at the Divorce
For context: Justin Hartley filed for divorce from Chrishell in November 2019, citing irreconcilable differences.
Chrishell later revealed on Selling Sunset that she found out about the filing through a text message, which stunned viewers everywhere.
That backstory explains why her response became such a talking point.
She Chose Grace Over Revenge
Most people agreed on one thing: Chrishell handled the shock with grace.
One comment called her “a very mature person who considered the bigger picture and put other people’s feelings first.”
She didn’t drag her ex in interviews. She didn’t go scorched earth online. She processed her pain in private, then showed up to work and kept moving forward.
That alone won her a lot of respect.
Setting Boundaries Changed Everything
Fans credit her partner G for helping her realize she didn’t have to please everyone anymore. Someone wrote, “Going scorched earth in your 40s is a vibe.”
It wasn’t about burning bridges.
It was about finally saying no to people who crossed her limits in friendships and relationships alike.
That boundary-setting showed up clearly in the later seasons of Selling Sunset, especially when drama broke out between Bre, Chelsea, and Emma.
Chrishell refused to pick sides just to keep the peace.
That was a turning point.
The Part That Felt the Most Human
One comment hit me harder than the rest: losing her step-daughter in the split.
A Redditor who’d gone through the same thing said being cut off from a child you helped raise is “a heartache you never move on from.”
It reminded me that divorce isn’t just about two adults signing papers. There are connections and losses that don’t make headlines.
From Heartbreak to a Glow-Up
Chrishell’s life didn’t just recover — it blossomed.
She sold multimillion-dollar homes, competed on Dancing with the Stars, got a Daytime Emmy nomination, and found a partner who openly cherishes her.
One comment summed it up with a bit of humor:
“She’s getting that Netflix shmoney and has someone who worships the ground she walks on. Meanwhile, he’s doing ads for a phone game.”
It’s petty, but you can’t help but smile at her comeback.
The Lesson Everyone Noticed
The biggest takeaway from the thread wasn’t about Justin at all — it was about accountability.
A user wrote, “If you focus on him, you completely miss your own opportunity for growth and getting the love you actually want.”
Chrishell showed that even after heartbreak, you can decide how to grow. She set new standards for herself and didn’t let bitterness define her.
My Take
Reading that thread changed the way I see celebrity breakups.
It’s easy to expect drama, but what stood out was Chrishell’s quiet choice to heal, to set boundaries, and to move on without dragging anyone down.
If you’ve ever been blindsided by a breakup, her story is proof that dignity and self-respect are powerful tools for recovery.
Pain is inevitable. Growth is optional and she chose growth.
