“AITA? Wife asked for it and then got upset when it happened”
I’m (38m) a wrestler, i used to compete at a high level, obviously i don’t compete anymore but i still lift weights and wrestle for fun.
My wife (36f) and i have three kids (15f,11m,9f), i enrolled all our kids in wrestling at the age of 7, the older 2 have been training and competing since then and the youngest didn’t like the sport so she quit and now she is doing gymnastics, my wife has never wrestled but she goes to the gym regularly and she has decent strength.
Yesterday i was chatting with my wife and the topic of our daughter’s wrestling tournament came up and she asked me what do i think will happen if her and our daughter wrestled.
I told her that she has no chance, she answered “she is not beating me, i’m much stronger”, and i told her “you can try if you want to, but i’m telling you will get ragdolled”, and she said “okay let’s do it then”.
So i called our daughter into the backyard and told her that her mom wants to wrestle, they wrestled while me and the other kids were watching, and just like i told her, my wife got handled with ease.
When they were done (it didn’t last long) my wife laughed it off and acted fine, but as soon as it was only me and her she said to me “so you knew how that wrestling match was going to go?” i answred yes and she said “and you still let it happen?
I got embarrased by my own child in front of my other children and now they are not going to look at me the same way”, i told her she is the one who asked for it, and the idea that our kids will not look at her the same way is completly false.
Because i taught our kids to be gracful and respectful in victory and defeat, and i’m pretty sure they have respect for their mother regardless of what happens in a wrestling match, even after i said she wasn’t not convinced and still upset which is not justified in my opinion.
AITA?
Internet Joined the Conversation and a lot To Say:
Curious-One4595 Said:
She also didn’t trust that he, an expert in the sport, was correct and is now blaming him for her lack of trust. Yikes. NTA.
purrincesskittens Said:
A kid who has been training since 7 and is now 15 is going to be able to put a untrained person down especially a over confident one.
Maybe if the other person was a way bigger man but I’ve never seen wrestling up close but this kid is trained and has skills if she is competing.
Bright_Ices Said:
OP is definitely NTA, but might consider not facilitating wife’s bad ideas in the future. If wife wants to wrestle with a kid, let wife organize it.
z00k33per0304 Said:
No kidding, her ego is hurt. Why would you even want to beat your teenage daughter at wrestling?
The kids aren’t even likely to remember this in a few months let alone have it ruin their view of their mom. It’s one thing to be “bigger and stronger” it’s another thing entirely to be trained to tactically take someone down and incapacitate them.
If anything she should be proud that her daughter could take her meaning she isn’t in as much danger if someone else tried.
Edit because I realize the daughter in question is a teen not preteen.
Ainz-Ooal-Gown Said:
It’s not just a river in Egypt. Not sure what more OP could have done he warned her multiple times how this would turn out.
In the comments, most users overwhelmingly judged the OP as NTA (Not The Asshole). Many felt the wife challenged the match on her own terms and couldn’t blame OP for the outcome.
Readers pointed out that OP even gave her a fair warning, and praised how he taught his kids sportsmanship and respect, regardless of who wins or loses.
